September 2019 Reading Update

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Hi everyone, just wanted to provide a quick update on my reading.

I have started a new strategy. I have this long spreadsheet listing every book I bought. I am going back and reading all the books I bought and never finished reading. Some of them I never event started. This list is called my reading backlog.

Recently I finished reading a few titles which I recommend:

  1. The Everything Store by Brad Stone
  2. The Lean Startup by Eric Ries

The Everything Store is an unofficial telling of the Amazon.com story. It’s a few years out-of-date but it does cover the origins of Kindle and Amazon Web Services. I was not old enough to experience the drama of the dotcom boom and bust, so I really enjoyed those parts.

The Lean Startup is a must read for software professionals. I’m not sure why I put it off so long. This book changed the way I think about multiple aspects of my job. And I’m recommending it to peers who haven’t read it.

Now, I’m working my way through Arnold Schwarzenegger’s autobiography titled Total Recall. I haven’t gotten far but it is interesting to see what it was like living in post-WWII Austria.

I think reading is one of the best ways to increase income. There is millions of dollars worth of knowledge sitting on bookshelves.

Here’s the rest of my reading backlog. 29 titles and growing. At my current pace this will take 1-2 years to burn through.

Dotcom SecretsRussel Brunson
Beyond Band of BrothersDick Winters
QEDRichard Feynman
Thomas JeffersonJohn Meacham
Search Inside YourselfTan, Goleman, Kabat-Zinn
TribesSeth Godin
The Ten Faces of InnovationKelley, Littman
Napoleon: A LifeAndrew Roberts
The Power of MythJoseph Campbell
Rise of the YoupreneurChris Ducker
48 Laws of PowerRobert Greene
Anti-FragileTaleb
UnshakeableTony Robbins
SapiensYuval Harari
Homo DeusYuval Harari
21 Lessons for the 21st CenturyYuval Harari
JRR Tolkien : A BiographyHenry Carpenter
Washington: A LifeRon Chernow
HamiltonRon Chernow
GrantRon Chernow
Fooled By RandomnessNN Taleb
The Black SwanNN Taleb
The Bed of ProcrustesNN Taleb
Anti-FragileNN Taleb
Skin in the GameNN Taleb
An Appetite for Wonder: The Making of a Scientist.Richard Dawkins
Getting Things DoneDavid Allen
Stillness Is The KeyRyan Holiday
The Infinite GameSimon Sinek

What I learned about writing from sharing my work with a writer

In 2009 I co-wrote a 60-page ethics paper on the topic of internet privacy and Facebook (and other social media platforms).

While a student I underestimated writing skill’s value. UCLA engineering students dread the required ethics class because of its multiple writing assignments. In retrospect, the forced writing practice taught an extremely valuable skill.

The engineering ethics final project was a thick group paper, 60+ pages double spaced. When dividing the work over several weeks, it wasn’t bad at all. My student group undoubtably improved writing skills by the end of the quarter, because we all put in the hard work. Our 60 page data privacy paper is probably decaying in a catacomb under UCLA’s Boelter Hall along with dozens of others.

In the beginning it feels like every writing project improves in quality. But, there are diminishing returns. Quick inititial growth quickly becomes slow, invisible growth. At that point you need peer feedback to advance.

I’m proud of myself for taking a leap of faith. I emailed a blogger I followed daily. I asked if I could write a guest post. He said “NO, but I have this group you can join, It’s just starting up”.

I learned in the moment the stupid secret of life: if you want something, just ask.

John, at the time, had a Medium publication with 15,000 followers. The new idea was a group of content producers writing content. The group would vote weekly to select the best submissions.

This was my chance! Hoping to inspire the group, I shared a submission. It was never published, but, in return I got something incredibly valuable: honest feedback from someone a few steps ahead of me.

John told me there was nothing unique about my work, nothing stand-out. He was right, it could’ve been written by anyone. There was no personal touch. I didn’t bake enough of my story into it.

Here is the entire submission:

This year, choose to be proactive

When my wife is pissed off it almost always comes down to one root cause: I’m not being proactive. Ive re-learned this proactivity lesson many times the hard way. Stephen Covey’s first highly effective habit is ‘be proactive’. It’s the foundation of the next 6 habits. Proactivity affects every important aspect of life: health, wealth, love, and happiness.

The opposite of proactive is reactive. Being reactive is lazy and unfulfilling. Most people live their life reactively, going with the flow, not living intentionally. According to Adams and Anderson, in Mastering Leadership, about 70% of adults never reach creative levels of consciousness, they get stuck in reactive mental models. Reactives go around reacting to stimuli constantly, obsessively checking social media and email, never making progress towards their most important goals. The reactive person is one who waits; waiting for a signal for what to do next, never owning their own agenda.

How proactivity impacts health

As the adage says: An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. How many people wait to go the dentist until it’s too late, they already need a root canal? That’s reactive. Flossing your teeth is proactive. The proactive patient goes to the doctor annually, excercise regularly, and flosses daily. As a result, they love a longer, healthier life.

How proactivity impacts wealth

The proactive business person under promises and over delivers. He provides the product or service before the client has to ask. He does not run his business by primarily reacting to competitors. He operates by the old adage: ‘under promise, over deliver.’

Leaders must be proactive for the organization to survive. Having vision is proactive. Leaders without vision soon find they have no one to lead. Vision is crucial to prevent the business’s disruption and obsoletion.

The proactive employee takes action before the boss has to ask. This employee could even be called an entre-employee, they are so creative. They seize oppprtunities and ask for forgiveness, not permission.

How proactivity impacts love

A reactive husband only brings home flowers when his wife is upset. A proactive husband brings them on a random day just to make his wife feel good. The proactive person is considered thoughtful.

The proactive friend is the one that picks up the phone and calls that long lost friend. They don’t wait for someone to call them.

How proactivity impacts happiness

The top of Maslow’s higherarchy of human needs is “self-actualization: achieving one’s full potential, including creative activities”. I don’t think one can ever be fulfilled without embracing proactivity. Without being proactive you will be stuck in a job you hate, and a number of other incongruent circumstances that detract from you being the best that you can be. You need proactivity to turn what the universe gave you into maximum positive impact.

Personally, I constantly have to remind myself to be proactive. If my wife is pissed off, it’s because I failed to be proactive, even though she points it out as a hundred other screw ups. If I haven’t spoken to my family in weeks, I’m not being proactive to call them. Car ran out of gas? Not proactive. Forgot to pay the cable bill? Not proactive.

Just walk around your house right now, you will find a number of chores that will need to be done later. Do it now if it takes less than 5 minutes. You will thank yourself later.

What I learned from this whole experience

  • The value of writing well is underestimated. As is the value of speaking well.
  • If you want something just ask. The worst that can happen is nothing.
  • Raising your hand is a great way to make new friends. People admire courage, and taking a social risk is courageous. Publishing something online is like raising your hand. You put yourself out there, you make an emotional connection. Weigh the risks, what’s the worst that can happen? You have to take down your post/video/picture.
  • Second guessing yourself is a great way to put on the brakes. It will take much longer to reach your goals. Publishing online is one way to expand your comfort zone. Pushing through your fears allows you to reach closer to your potential. You can spend less time and energy on second guessing yourself and more on creating new work.

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